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*The following article provides a detailed list of the business involved during the process of making my marriage possible. As the majority of the target readers are people in Taiwan, it is written in Chinese(Traditional) only. 

結婚是個非常瑣碎既麻煩的過程。雖然天仙娘家婆家都很體諒我們在外地工作的不便以及經濟上也給了很多通榮，所以一切從簡。不過，人生難得才一次的結婚過程，有些事情還是不能省。天仙也曾很天真的想過，要全部自己動手來。不過隨著時間一點一滴的過去，最後總還是回到：有錢能解決就好... 這段期間，跟娘家與婆家的溝通要非常的頻繁。我覺得這整個過程的設計，雖然每個新娘幾乎都會至少崩潰個一兩次，但卻是非常的必要！何謂如此呢？我覺得若是跟婆家娘家不熟悉就草草的只有登記，其他都省略了！其實以後婆家娘家兩家子也不太有機會再變的更熟了。說句不討喜的話，有時候婚前的這些衝突可以讓你看清很多事實。重要的不是有沒有吵架，而是有了衝突你們怎麼去克服（各位已婚的你們說是吧！！？？）

  

前一晚跟姊妹們閒聊真的很開心。其實當時很希望可以聊一整晚，不過由於當時已經知道肚子裡有北鼻了，加上我雖然很想但是身體已經很疲憊了。所以無奈只好早早就寢。經過了一晚好眠，隔天早上起來就要來準備"迎戰"了！大家都知道，新人在婚宴中根本就吃不到東西的（尤其是新娘）。所以這天的早餐比任何一天的早餐都來的重要呢！簡單梳洗過後我們就到了樓下，來瞧瞧早餐有些啥東西吧！

Well, it had been a fantastic night with my girlfriends, chatting away. I really wished that we pull off an all nighter, but at this point, I already knew about the little life growing inside me. Plus, even if I wanted to, I was physically incapable. I needed sleep! Anyway, after a good night's rest, now it was time to prepare for the big day. To start the day, we headed downstairs to see what the hotel had to offer for breakfast. It is known to all of us that the bride does not get a chance to eat anything during the reception. Therefore, this breakfast was even more important than the usual breakfasts!

Traditionally, there are two receptions to every wedding - one which the bride's family would host, and the other the groom's family would host. Initially we planned to simplify things and just have one big recpetion. But after a few disagreements between me and the parents, we decided to take the advice of one of our elders, and hold two receptions instead. Surprisingly, my parents were thrilled to be able to make the major decisions and deal with all the trifles, which we had thought would be better if we handled everything... Anyhow, there came another problem! My other half and I had so many mutual friends that it was difficult to decide who should come to which reception. In the end, we decided to leave the bride's reception exclusively to my parents' guests, and that all of our guests would go to the groom's reception instead. 

Thus this blog post is about the experience of holding the bride's reception at Hotel National. A room was given complimentary to the banquet the next day. I had also booked an extra room for my bridesmaids-to-be, since they had kindly agreed to come and help out (and also for support, what would I do without them!)

The rest of the article will be in Chinese (Traditional) only, but you can still enjoy the pictures of the rooms and get a feel of how comfy the accomodation is. 

*This article is in Chinese (Traditional) only.



當初因為2013年10月底安排要跟當時還是男友的老公赴泰國。而重要的任務就是參加摯友的婚禮。天仙爸擔心我們去了他的地盤，遇到那邊的長輩們不知該如何交代我身邊的男伴是誰，因此建議我們赴泰國前先完成簡單的交換戒指訂婚儀式。這樣一來就可直接以"未婚夫"的身分介紹身邊的男伴。因此早在這個時候，天仙就開始尋找適合自己的婚紗工作室。

以下純屬個人意見，僅供參考。



［中文在下面］

   

我的雙魚座外婆與天蠍座外公，攜手走過五十餘年頭。直到我外公離開人世好一陣子後，我才知道為何小時候住阿公家時，看到我起床後都會很開心地問我要不要吃饅頭。因為外婆不愛吃麵食，因此家裡面絕對不會有麵食類食品出現。而我外公其實是不喜歡吃稀飯的。偏偏我外婆每天早餐都會準備稀飯。我外婆的脾氣可是出了名的！但我外公的好脾氣也絕對不輸我阿嬤。對他們倆的印象常常停留在阿嬤唸不停，阿公也不回嘴，就一直讓她唸到滿意為止。我不知道雙魚座的是不是都這麼任性。但我常常發完脾氣後想到他怎麼跟我阿公一樣都坐在那邊一動也不動的等著被唸，就想到同樣也是雙魚天蠍組合的我們，到了阿公阿嬤的年紀時，也會這樣嗎？

在這追求男女平等的社會中，我學習到如何在異性中凸顯自己的能力，但同時也要知道自己的極限，不要盲目的追求男女平等反而成了另類的不平等。這些是大學時代的女性文學老師透過作品教會我的事。雖然留學期間沒能夠安排與退休回到英國的他碰面，第二次走訪英國時卻很榮幸的接受了他的招待。這幾天下來我觀察老師的一舉一動，以及與師母的互動，我印象很深刻，當時正在忙著準備晚餐，而在客廳與師母聊天喝雪莉酒的我瞄著廚房心想：這就是我想嫁的老公！